5.16.2020

Quarantining Together Forever

Homeschooling has been super challenging. I am grateful for the extra time I've had with my kids, but the extra time I have with them has been spent fighting with them to finish their work, cleaning up their spills and broken things and trying to get them to stop fighting with each other. There were many many tears the first couple of weeks of this, but we're one week away from being done and I think we can say we survived it all! 
Here's a glimpse of how the whole family feels about being quarantined:

So, James hasn't really been quarantined. His work has continued as usual, but his days off have certainly changed. He'll spend 10 minutes trying to help one of our kids to focus and then turn to me and say, "I don't know how you do this everyday!" I just smile and think to myself, "I don't know either." lol.

Ezra has handled things the best out of everyone. He wakes up and immediately starts on his school work and works until he's done (which is no more than 2 hours on a long day). Then he jumps right into his chores and responsibilities. Then he spends the rest of the day complaining that he's bored and has nothing to do. 

This school year Makai's teachers told me that Makai has a very significant attention issue. I have always just thought of him as a creative mind and storyteller, but they convinced me there is more to it and it's hurting his schooling. Homeschooling has been the most difficult for him. He's sooooo distracted and can't seem to focus at all. I literally start homework with him at 8:30 and we go until 5pm most days just trying to get him to sit back down and get it done. It's been incredibly exhausting and frustrating for him and for me.

Deklan has had a little of Ezra and a little of Makai. He had a behavioral therapy appt last month and was put on medication to help him with tourette's and aggression. We have noticed small changes, but it hasn't solved all of our problems. He can actually focus pretty well when he sits down to do his work, but he has had a lot of moments where he just doesn't want to do it and he gets really mad at me. He is such a different kid for his teacher than he is for me, so I'm super grateful that his teacher volunteered to walk him through a few assignments via zoom, to give me a break and help him.
This girl. This girl hasn't stopped crying since we started. She is so social that she really is NOT thriving in a homeschool environment. She misses her friends and her teachers. I am a little broken hearted every time I think about her Kindergarten year and how it's ending. She has made leaps and bounds this year in school. She had a phenomenal teacher who is so much fun and full of genuine love for each of her kids. It makes me sad that Bryn was jipped some of that time with her teacher this year. She hates to do work at home, so we do what we can, take breaks, eat snacks and then try to come back to it later.

Where do I even begin with little Miss B-Dell (as she calls herself)? This monkey gets into so much trouble every day. She has seen me helping the other 4 and taken her opportunities to get into mischief while mommy is preoccupied. She even ran out of the house and got lost in the neighborhood THREE different times!!!! The last time the people that found her almost called the police until my neighbor saw them with her and returned her to us. She now has a Buddy Tag tracking device. I can't let my guard down with this one.
Koda is just a little cutie patootie and thankfully he hasn't been too affected. Maybe he's been neglected a little more than I'd like to admit as we are constantly shoving puffs at him in his high chair while I try to get work done with the others. He also hates to be put down, so that's been a fun challenge, though nothing new. He still gets easily startled by loud noises, so that might be the hardest part of this for him since our house is always kind of loud with all these kiddos home. 

Me? Well, I rarely shower until Brielle's naptime in the afternoon, my house feels like it's in a constant state of disrepair no matter how much I feel like I'm cleaning, my head is spinning from managing everyone's schedules and assignments and I'm just in need of a solid girls WEEK and a huge bag of chocolate. James gets home at 5 most days and I quickly throw a hat on and spritz some body spray on and hope he doesn't notice that the most neglected person in our home right now is me. Then I just go sit outside with the baby and zone out for a good 20 minutes imagining myself on a beach in Hawaii. I had thoughts that I might end up choosing to homeschool after this experience, but, while I think I could do it, I don't think the majority of my children (or my house) would benefit from it, so public school can keep them!

There was one day in the middle of all this where the kids wouldn't stop fighting and things kept getting broken. At the sound of the last glass decoration shattering to the floor, I kicked them all to the backyard so I could clean it up and have a minute of solitude. They all sat outside crying and then huddled together on the patio couch where Ezra told them that he thinks the whole point of Corona is to teach them to all get along. I loved that insight! We're working on it Corona, we're trying.

4.30.2020

My Weekly Meal Plan

When James and I got married, he and I both set a goal to have family dinners together every night. Or at least as often as we could. This was tricky in the beginning because I couldn't cook hardly anything. Some of the first meals I made for James will haunt me forever. He said my spaghetti tasted like vomit; my chicken enchiladas tasted like cardboard and my other dishes were bland. I often pulled out raw chicken from the oven when I thought it was done and then I burned toast just about every time. I had my work cut out for me, but the good news was that I could only go up from there.

 It took time and mostly finding the right recipes and researching the simple questions, but I am pretty proud of how far I've come. I can now cook meals that people rave about and ask for seconds and even the recipes for. I can cook meals that my family loves and scarfs down and that James brings to work with him to brag to his co-workers about how amazing his wife is. I still cook a handful or more of less than adequate meals, but I am still pleased with where I'm at. However, family dinners got even trickier when we had kids and they got picky and schedules got busy, etc. I was constantly overwhelmed with the the question, "What's for dinner?" It would stress me out so much. Now it wasn't about how to cook, it was about what and how much time did I have? So, about 7 or 8 years ago I decided to make a meal plan. Instead of an actual menu, I decided to simply my evening choices and pick themes for each night. This has SAVED my dinner anxiety so much! We have dinner together every night and very rarely miss a night and I am grateful for this tradition and standard we have that brings our family together at the end of each day. I get asked all the time about my meal themes whether from people my kids have told or people who have overheard me mention something about it. Our family often talks about these themed nights like they are the worldwide norm, so I am constantly explaining it. We love it and maybe it would help someone else too.

Sunday- Spaghetti Sunday
        No, we don't have spaghetti every Sunday, but this theme reminds us that Sunday nights are pasta night. We DO have some variety of a pasta dish every Sunday. This can look like normal spaghetti or spaghetti in all its varieties (baked, etc). This can also look chicken alfredo or spaghetti squash as a substitute, tortellini, ravioli, lasagna and so on. The possibilities are endless, but not overwhelming because we've narrowed down the category.

Monday- Mexican Monday
        We love Mexican food here. My overall favorite dinner is taco salad, so having a night that is just about Mexican food works well for us. (Though I've toyed with the idea of making this Meatless Monday, I still can't get away from Mexican food.) There's enchiladas (ones that no longer taste like cardboard), tacos, flautas, quesadillas, fajitas and so on.

Tuesday- Try Something New Tuesday
        This is a fun day that I often look forward to. This is the day I open up my pinterest food folder and pick a new meal I want to try. The kids know that this is the day to be adventurous and brave and it has, for the most part, been successful. Sometimes the new dish is simply a new side with a traditional meal, but there is usually something new and different on the table every Tuesday night.

Wednesday- Wake Up Wednesday
        By far the kids favorite and most talked about theme. Breakfast for dinner. Need I say more? With the craziness of school mornings, our breakfasts are less than exciting, so this is the time when I make a huge breakfast and we enjoy it for dinner. The possibilities, again, are endless, but I do try to always have some eggs or a green smoothie or something to bring more nutrition to some traditionally non nutritive meals. Though it's amazing what you can find for healthy AND fun breakfast ideas!

Thursday- That's What Momma Made Thursday
        This is our most traditional day. This is when I make meals that we grew up with that are tried and true staples for many homes. This is a night when a kid can request their favorite, or we remake a new recipe that we enjoyed or it's simply a night for leftovers or for creations mom can throw together with what's in the fridge!

Friday- Fun Friday
        Kid friendly dinners is what this night is all about. 9 times out of 10 my kids pick pizza, so I also think of this as my night off. Though we do have exceptions to that where we'll do hotdogs, mac and cheese, or basic kid favorites like this.

Saturday- Soup, Salad, Sandwich Saturday
        I love the simplicity of this night, but also the variety options. We can go as basic as grilled cheese and tomato soup, turkey, egg salad or tuna salad sandwiches. Or we can be fancier with a large Cobb salad (my favorite), hamburgers (not that they're fancy, but they are a little more involved) or meatball subs, etc. We do usually lean more towards the sandwich side of this theme, but soups and salads are a fun alternative.


Obviously these themes are completely customizable. The idea is just to simplify your choices to make the task of choosing what to make a little less daunting and maybe even a little more exciting. Family dinners are important, and they don't have to be fancy or delicious. And they certainly shouldn't be stressful. They should be a time when a family reconnects and turns off the world around them for a little bit. 


"Growing up I learned life's important lessons at the dinner table." -Chef John Besh

"A strong family has well worn seats at the dinner table." -A Few Lovely Things


Here's a few of our favorite recipes if you want to give our themes a try! Or make up your own themes! 

Spaghetti Sunday: This is my sister's baked spaghetti recipe that is definitely one of our favorites:
BAKED SPAGHETTI
1 pkg (16oz) Spaghetti
1 1/2 lbs lean ground beef (we also like to sub italian sausage)
1/2 medium onion, chopped
1/2 green pepper, chopped
1 (10 3/4oz) can cream of mushroom soup, undiluted
1 (10 3/4 oz) can condensed tomato soup, undiluted
1 (8oz) can tomato sauce (you can also just use spaghetti sauce)
1 C water
2 TB brown sugar
1 tsp salt
1 tsp dried basil
1 tsp dried oregano
1/2 tsp dried marjoram
1/2 tsp dried rosemary
1/8 tsp garlic salt
1 C shredded mozzarella cheese, divided (or more, who measures cheese anyways?)

Break Spaghetti in half; cook. Meanwhile, in dutch oven (or large pot, or just use a large frying pan), cook the beef, onion and green peppers over medium heat until meat is no longer pink; drain. Stir in the soups, tomato sauce, water, brown sugar and seasonings.

Drain Spaghetti; stir in meat sauce. Add 1/2 C cheese. Transfer to a greased 13x9 in baking dish. 

Cover and bake at 350 for 30 min. Uncover; sprinkle cheese on top. Bake 10-15 min longer until cheese is melted.

Think of me and enjoy ;)

Mexican Monday: A very tasty and kid friendly dish we love is...
MEXICAN CORNBREAD CASSEROLE

Some alterations I make to this recipe is I swap black beans for the olives. I also use a box cornbread 9 times out of 10 for convenience. But when/if you do this, follow the temperature cooking directions on the box because it'll likely be different than their from scratch recipe. I also often use ground turkey instead of beef just to cut down on our red meat intake. I top it with cilantro and sour cream. yum!

Try Something New Tuesday: Here's a new one we tried recently that was a success.
ALOHA PINEAPPLE CHICKEN RICE CASSEROLE

A super great thing about this recipe is that is is easy to cook as a casserole OR you can cook things separately and then piece it together like I did. It turned out delicious! I made the sauce and the spooned it over the rice so the rice wasn't soggy or completely saturated in the soy sauce mix. I made it with my sister in law's coconut rice recipe because it's my absolute favorite rice. Just throw it all in the rice cooker and it's perfect. Here's the recipe for that:
Coconut rice: 2 Cups of rinsed Jasmine rice, 1 CAN of coconut milk, 1 1/2 C water, 1 tsp sugar, 1 tsp salt, optional cilantro and or lime can be added before or after cooking.

Wake Up Wednesday: Our favorite day. It's hard to pick just one favorite, but here's a definite breakfast standout that we love!
BREAKFAST ENCHILADA BAKE

MMMM! This is so yummy! I prefer it without the added sausage inside, but James was impressed both ways. Definitely don't forget the bacon on the top! I have tried sooooo many pancake recipes over these past several years, but our favorite is the ihop buttermilk pancake recipe found on pinterest with this caramel buttermilk syrup https://www.creationsbykara.com/buttermilk-caramel-syrup/.

That's What Momma Made Thursday: The dish I picked for this one is a recipe I often make when I'm taking someone dinner. It almost always gets a recipe request! CHICKEN POT PIE

So for this one I usually use a premade pie crust because I'm a busy mom and take a few short cuts here and there. I get a quality one, usually pillsbury. Then you can modify the veggies and etc to your liking, though for the filling I do usually stick to the recipe because it is just so good! Serve with some homemade rolls and a side salad and you'll feel like a million bucks putting this on the table for your family!

Fun Friday: While we do tend to do pizza most Fridays, we have found many alternatives to fun, kid friendly dishes that we love. This is one of our favorites!
PRETZEL DOGS

Get yourself a high quality hot dog to really make this recipe measure up to its potential. I love the oscar meyer weiner all beef dogs the best. These pretzels are delicious! Serve with a side of homemade fries or just some fruits and veggies!

Soup/Salad/Sandwich Saturday: This is our day that could go super fancy, or way basic. In need of a new kind of sandwich recipe, I'm your girl to ask!
SLOPPY JOES

You guys, this recipe will be the only sloppy joe recipe you will ever want. I use ground turkey again to cut back on red meat and we love it with a quality potato bun, but I'm sure it's delicious with any bun. Definitely toast those buns with some brushed butter for amazing flavor and to keep the bread from getting soggy. Serve it up with a side of chips and chopped veggies!

There you have it! Let me know if you try any of these and what you thought!


3.22.2020

My Life With 6 Kids

Chaos. That's the best word to describe my life. And thanks to the Coronavirus, schools are closed for a while, so things just got even crazier around here. So I thought I'd do a post to describe what daily life is like for our wild, young family. Honestly, adjusting to 3 kids was by far the hardest adjustment. Everything after that has just been "Bonus Chaos".



What is life like with 6 kids?
  • It's loud. Quiet is dangerous in this house, so we just have to learn to embrace the noise.
  • It's crying every night wondering how you'll keep going, and then waking up the next morning just to do it all over again.
  • It's endless piles of laundry and never finding that matching sock or that favorite pair of pants.
  • It's spending all afternoon making a fancy new dinner because you like to see how many faces they can make and you enjoy the exercise of scraping food into the trash can.
  • It's having to lower your OCD standards of what a clean house should be or else you'll go crazy.
  • It's going to bed at 10:37 pm and waking up at 12:13am because the baby is awake and your day just began all over again.
  • It's nursing in public while also trying to divvy up food and sneak in a few bites for yourself only to realize your nursing cover has slipped and the whole side of Chick Fil A just saw your boob.
  • It's neighbor kids coming to ask if Brynlee can play and suddenly realizing you have no clue where she actually is. 
  • It's finding her in your closet with your high heels on, lipstick all over her mouth and your bra on with two balls stuffed inside it.
  • It's trying every reward/punishment system in the book and discovering that they all require individual techniques, but you can't even master one, so how can you attempt 6?
  • It's coming up with endless new explanations to why life isn't always fair.
  • It's saying you'll take the oldest to piano in 15 minutes only to realize an hour and 15 minutes later that you somehow lost track of time and it slipped your mind. 
  • It's setting a daily alarm at 2:30 to give yourself a pep talk and practice breathing techniques before the kids get off the bus at 2:36 and come pounding through the front door. 
  • It's tearing the house or car apart to find out where that smell is coming from only to discover that it's the 7 year old who has been refusing baths for the past 4 nights. 
  • It's going nonstop from morning until night (and even through the night thanks to a baby who never sleeps) and still feeling like you've accomplished nothing.
  • It's breaking up the 23rd fight and checking the clock to find out it's only 9:30 am. 
  • It's being told you're the meanest mom in the world by one kid while another kid squeezes your leg and tells you you're the best. 
  • It's always having someone to snuggle with.
  • It's reminding yourself to laugh because it really wasn't a big deal. 
  • It's Baby Shark on repeat an hour straight. 
  • It's baby laughs and smiles to brighten everyone's day. 
  • It's attempting to listen to the 9 year olds hour long story only to realize that you zoned out 45 minutes ago and pray he doesn't ask you to repeat the story back to him.
  • It's trying to help the 11 year old with his math homework and feeling like an idiot because you can't remember anything.
  • It's feeling the constant weight of the world on your shoulders.
  • It's never watching a movie straight from start to end.
  • It's somehow still wanting more babies because even though you're in over your head, babies still make you melt. (Don't worry, James won't let me...)
  • It's praying every night that you aren't completely blowing this.
  • It's knowing you're being hoisted up by angels because there is no way anyone should be able to function on such an intense level of exhaustion and still be alive.
  • It's endless boogie and bum wiping.
  • It's running here and there and everywhere and always having to rush because you're running late no matter what. 
  • It's being reminded everytime you go out in public that your hands are full and then laughing because there are 4 more not with you.
  • It's taking all 6 out in public and getting looks and seeing people back away like we're the plague. (pre-corona issue here)
  • It's cleaning up spill after spill after spill after spill after spill......
  • It's hunting down the toddler because you know she's into trouble somewhere.
  • It's an audience while you poop, shower or even while you try to sleep.
  • It's holding that baby anytime he wants mommy because you know that one day he won't.
  • It's hearing that big 11 year old ask you to tuck him in and snuggle and teaching yourself that the dishes can wait because he needs you more.
  • It's being asked what you like to do for fun or in your "free time" and not only realizing you don't have free time, but also realizing your hobbies must be doing dishes and pulling your hair out while helping the kids through HOURS of homework in the afternoons.
  • It's dance classes, piano lessons, church activities, soccer practices, art lessons and your kids are still asking you to sign them up for jiu jitsu and basketball.
  • It's nagging and constantly having to repeat every single thing you say!
  • It's constant nightmares that you've missed something or forgotten someone.
  • It's counting heads when you get in the car and almost always leaving before Deklan realizes he's not in the car.
  • It's never a dull moment.
  • It's days upon days upon days of whining, laughing, fort building, video games, fighting and snack sneaking.
  • It's wondering how your kids ever survive at school without food every 30 minutes. 
  • It's being so broken, feeling so guilty, and past the point of what feels like deathly exhaustion and yet you can't help but love these little people with every fiber of your being.
I could go on and on and on about the craziness of our current phase of life, but even if I knew being a mother of 6 would be this hard, I'd still choose it. I might space them out a little more, but I'd still want each of these babies. They're pushing me harder than I would've thought. Kids have a way of showing you all your weaknesses; some you knew you had, some you didn't realize were your weaknesses, and the worst is some that you thought were your strengths, but suddenly appear to be weaknesses. When I first had children, I thought I knew exactly what I was doing. Ezra was an easy baby and the kind of mom that he needed was the kind of mom that I was naturally. Then Makai came along and showed me I had no clue what I was doing. Deklan confirmed this fear to the extreme and I've just been winging it ever since. Being a mom is by far the hardest thing I have done. It is a legit 24/7 job. And yet, I love it. They call me mom, and I am blessed.

2.21.2020

Mt Lemmon

About an hour and 30 minutes from our home is Mt Lemmon. It's like a perfect oasis for this New England girl living in the desert. Complete with tall pine trees, cooler weather, hiking trails and even snow! I love the mountains. I love the views and majesty of it all. There's just something about being tucked away in the forest on top of a mountain that makes me feel connected with nature and with God.

I took the kids by myself about a month ago and we found a perfect little spot off the road to go sledding and enjoying the snow and woods. This week James and the kids happened to be off on the same day which doesn't happen often by coincidence, so we took advantage of it and spent the day in Mt. Lemmon. Most of the snow had melted, but we explored a little deeper and found a great little spot off of a side dirt road that had just enough snow to sled down. The kids quickly turned their, "I hate this day" comments into "this is the best day ever!" comments. We sure do miss snow. I don't miss driving in the blizzards, or having to chip ice chunks off my windshield, or freezing just stepping outside, but I do miss the magic, the silence and peace and the beauty of freshly fallen snow especially as it gently lines the tree branches.
Brie clearly didn't love it.






After sledding and getting soaked and muddy, we did a quick change and then found a hiking trail to explore. Makai likes to get lost in the woods anytime we explore and all 4 older kids try to find treasure (aka junk) or at least their very own hiking stick. Then we have to have the same conversation all over again about how we are not taking all that home with us. It was fun to walk through snow and step through pine needles and see who can find the biggest pine cones. James made us all run up a massive hill as part of our family training (see previous post). By the end of it all, we were ready to go home. James and the kids fell asleep right away and I enjoyed a quiet drive home. The only downside to Mt Lemmon is the windy roads up and down the mountain side that make me feel so nauseous. It's worth it though. 


This is my adorable view on all of our family adventures.
Whose kids are these anyways?



Even Zazu had a great time



Kissing those cheeks the whole way up the mountain.

After sledding and getting soaked and muddy, we did a quick change and then found a hiking trail to explore. Makai likes to get lost in the woods anytime we explore and all 4 older kids try to find treasure (aka junk) or at least their very own hiking stick. Then we have to have the same conversation all over again about how we are not taking all that home with us. It was fun to walk through snow and step through pine needles and see who can find the biggest pine cones. James made us all run up a massive hill as part of our family training (see previous post). By the end of it all, we were ready to go home. James and the kids fell asleep right away and I enjoyed a quiet drive home. The only downside to Mt Lemmon is the windy roads up and down the mountain side that make me feel so nauseous. It's worth it though.

James' Spartan Race


This guy is awesome. He doesn't quit or back down. He proved that to us all this past weekend when he ran a Super Spartan race with his cousins. He has never done something like that before and didn't know what to expect, but he was all in and he had a blast. 


James is on the left. Notice the name on the back of his shirt? That is what happens when you don't pick your own name and leave your cousin in charge!










My favorite picture. James is explaining to his proud, supportive children what it was like when he jumped in the mud.




The following pictures are courtesy of Spartan photographers:





We were all very proud of him. Watching him do this race has sparked a fire in all of us. Not only is James planning on doing two more Spartans this year, but our whole family has started training to do one together! Though Brynlee has said she'll only get a little muddy because she doesn't want to be gross. lol.



2.18.2020

Deklan's Award


Last month was an exciting month for Deklan. He was selected as the Leader in Character Award Winner for the month of January. The Leader in Character award goes to a kid who is a great example in all he does and represents his school well. One kid from each school is selected each month and Deklan got it. He got his name and picture in the paper, got recognized at the district meeting and he was gifted a $25 gift card to Barnes and Noble.

My Deklan got this award. The one who makes me question my ability to be a parent on a daily basis. The kid that I often have to physically shove into the car kicking and screaming just to get to school or church. The kid that takes hours to complete his homework every night because he's everywhere and the same kid that says we are a horrible mom or dad and he wishes he never had to see us again at least once a week.

We were kind of shocked when we heard the news of this award. Deklan is my hardest kid. And yet at school he is an angel. And I couldn't be more grateful for that. I am so thankful that he can control himself at school so much that his teacher recommended him as a Leader in Character. I am so thankful that he can be a good example and that he often helps his friends make better choices (according to observations from his teacher). I am thankful for a sweet teacher who sees so much good in Deklan and thinks he is incredible. I am thankful that he has many moments when that stubbornness and determination are channelled for good and we can see glimpses of the kid I constantly pray that he will become.

Truth be told, Deklan feels everything. And not only does he feel everything, he feels it all intensely. If Deklan is happy, he is on cloud 9. His laugh is contagious, his smile is the sweetest and he will do anything to get you to laugh. Out of all of my kids, he loves babies the absolute most. One of our favorite memories of Deklan is when Brynlee was born. Deklan was an 18 month old terror. His scream pierced our ears every single day and night and I knew we were in for it. Yet, when we brought Brynlee home from the hospital, he was tender and gentle and literally would not let her go. We tried to take her from him and he told us "No!" and would hold her tighter. He just loves loves loves babies. He is the kid who cried just last week while watching his little sister perform in her class choir performance because, "she was just so beautiful and I was so proud of her". He's the kid who bawled his eyes out when we moved away from Texas because he was going to miss everyone. And then just bawled his eyes out again because he fell in love with someone else's puppy. He's the kid who gets terrified of earthly disasters and feels the reality of them so close to home. And when he's mad, he gets really mad; like hulk mad; like scary, hide the knives mad. But the bottom line is that Deklan feels everything intensely, including all the good emotions.



A little over a year ago I had a necklace made with the engraving, "Be His Solace" that I wear every single day as a reminder for me about Deklan. I need the reminder that Deklan needs a safe, peaceful, calm place and I need to be that for him. I feel like I fail miserably 9 times out of 10 with this, but it is things like this award that remind me what an incredible kid is behind all those big emotions. It's awards like this that make me feel so blessed to have this kid in my life. Deklan is the kid that makes daily life so challenging, but he is also the kid that is going to change the world with his goodness.

Huge thanks to his 1st grade teacher and all his former teachers who have always had nothing but wonderful things to say about this little boy and the privilege they have felt to have him in their classrooms and lives.
Deklan and his cute teacher Ms. Bello at the district meeting.

"The kids who need the most love will ask for it in the most unloving ways." -unknown

"When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions, it's our job to share our calm, not join their chaos." -L.R. Knost

"Those who are hardest to love need love the most." -S. Mark Palmer